Thursday, July 9, 2009

Michael Jackson

Honestly, I haven't wanted to touch this subject with a ten foot pole, but heard a comment today that really bothered me so I figured I should put my thoughts out there for those of you that care :)

Yes, I grew up loving Michael Jackson. I loved his songs, loved his dancing, etc. but I'm quite sure I've ever been the type of fan that idolized him. I haven't kept up with him much over the years, although I do remember seeing the story of him dangling his son over the railing at that hotel. I also remember thinking it quite odd that he wore pajamas to court. I say all this to give you the extent of my recent Michael Jackson knowledge. Honestly, if you had asked me three weeks ago how many children MJ had and whom they were conceived with, I probably could not have answered that question.

I say all this because someone said today while referring to custody of MJ's kids "well, they probably weren't even his kids anyway"

Now, maybe you see nothing wrong with the above statement. Heck, you might have even said it yourself, but as an adoptive momma I think someone needs to stop and say that just because he may or may not have produced the sperm that fertilized the egg does not equal that he wasn't their father. He has raised these children (from what I have seen in the media) since their birth. He is the only parent these children have ever known. Yes, he was a weird, mixed up man who was probably guilty of lots of disqusting things, but he was still their father.

These children are his children, but more importantly, they are children of God. My immediate family consists of children that I spent hours birthing and children that I spent hours praying for. Some have my DNA, some do not. BUT THEY ARE ALL MY CHILDREN. Yes, two of them didn't come out of womb, but if something happened to me, I would hope and pray that people would not hold them at arm's length because of that small difference in how they came to be part of my family.

8 comments:

Natasha Vaughn, Cake Designer said...

I have thought the exact same about those poor children. I can't see how their genetic paternity makes any difference in this at all. And from what I've seen in the media, their genetic maternity either. Though I am taking it all with a grain of salt.

dgsandbjsmom said...

Yes, they are his children but they will have issues with just as yours will. If you are raised in one culture who do you marry? If you are black raised white or white raised black the children will have to decide down the line what culture to embrace. Just as a family who one is German and one is American. The children will not have so much the issue of skin color but the issue of which culture and possibly which citizenship to choose. I feel that MJ did the best he could for his children and that they need to be raised with people they know but one day they will have to choose where they belong. Despite color their are cultural differences. I have dated 2 black men in my life and the last ones parents were highly educated but there will always be differences.

dgsandbjsmom said...

Why is he strange and disgusting? I personally think that you don't need to judge a book by its cover. As someone who has been dealing with skin problems from allergies I would dress like him if I could too. Only if you have been there do you realize what it is like to be constantly ridiculed. His skin disease makes you look very different.

Brea said...

Wow, where do I begin? First and foremost, yes, there are differences between black people and white people, but the majority of those differences (besides skin tone) are differences that man has put in place, not God. Yes, there are cultural differences, but we intend to teach our black children to embrace their black culture. We don't intend to make them "white" because they aren't white. As for the second post, if you will go back and read I didn't say he was strange AND disgusting. What I said was that he was a weird, mixed up man who was probably guilty of lots of disgusting things, BUT HE WAS STILL THEIR FATHER. The post was not to debate what type of person MJ was or wasn't, it was to discuss that no matter what, he was his kids' father regardless of biology. I guess I just don't understand people who go to other people's blogs just to debate and argue. Who's got that kind of time?

dgsandbjsmom said...

Because the whole point of a blog is to state your opinion.

Susan Smith-Alltop said...

Amen Brea. I could not agree with you more. I also blogged about MJ. As a non bio mom to my sons, it makes me cring the way the media highlights the possibility that MJ is not the bio dad & if the possible bio father could get custody. what a crock of s***. Just because a person does not contribute to DNA does not mean they are not a parent. dgsandbjsmom....no one has a hearts and rainbows life, they will ALL have ISSUES... just like your kids... and my kids and Brea's kids and EVERYONE's kids.
Sorry Brea to have a fit on your blog... POWER to the non-bio parents and their kids.

Brea said...

You are right, the whole point of MY blog is state an opinion. To ask for opinions/advice. To share my life experiences with those who care to read it. If people don't find my content worthwhile, why read it? But this is the second time you (dgs...) have come here and left comments that aren't really uplifting or helpful. Almost attacking at times. As a Christian woman, I don't want to be mean to you or hateful, but I also don't understand why ANYONE would come onto someone's personal blog and try to "stir the pot" I truly don't mean to offend you, but I get the feeling you have a HUGE chip on your shoulder and your angry at the world...I guess I can't figure out where I play into that?

Tamara said...

You are one heck of an amazing woman Brea and I am sending you hugs and love from TEXAS!!!