Saturday, November 15, 2008

Domestic vs. International

Since our news less than 36 hours ago that Ben wouldn't be coming into our home (although he IS going home...praise GOD!), J and I have both been doing the whole "do we go domestic or international?"

There's pros and cons to both. Having BTDT (been there done that for those of you that don't text-trust me, I'm still learning) with domestic adoption and then laying eyes on THE packet for international, I personally feel like internation adoption is a lot more work. With domestic, you do your home study and then once it's approved, you wait to be picked. Six months after placement (give or take), you finalize. With international, you do your home study, do your dossier, wait for referral, wait for court date, wait for travel date, travel but then you are pretty much done.

It's a hard decision and one that J and I don't feel ready to make yet. So we are just praying. And asking for your prayers. We do plan to start on the homestudy itself b/c some parts of it are the same (physicals, financials, etc.) Yes, mom, you can start breathing in your paper sack now HA HA! As we go through the paperwork process, we are just praying for God's will to be done. If we need to go domestic, we go domestic. If we need to be parents of a child from far away, we go international. We just want to go where HE wants us.

So, that's Brea's random thoughts at 11:44pm on a Saturday night. I'm sure there will be more to come. You never know with us!


Anonymous said...

Just stumbled across your blog... I'll be doing an international adoption just as soon as God gives the green light, but I wanted to direct you to WACAP because they are in Ethiopia and have a program called "promise child" where all the fees are waived for certain "special needs" children. I say "special needs" because for some that simply means they are the "wrong" gender and age for adoptability (in Ethiopia that's 2yrs and male). Just thougth I'd share in case that was something you might be interested in looking into a bit more. Blessings you your journey!

Sig said...

Sorry Ben did not work out, but I can't wait to see what God has in store for your family!!!

kbell said...

Oh girl! We'll be praying for you guys. These are such big decisions, but God will guide you. I can't wait to watch Him work things out!

Anonymous said...

I've enjoyed following your blog for the past few months. I just wanted to say that we have adopted twice internationally, and now once domestically (we got our baby girl on 11/3!), and domestic is WAY easier! We lost our referred baby in Vietnam last year, so that's one of the risks of IA - problems can crop up in a country at any time. That being said, either way a child comes into your home is a blessing!!

Don't forget that you have to deal with CIS for international, and that's just not fun!

Best to you!

Mrs. U said...

Hi there!!
I enjoy reading your blog! We are currently praying about our next adoption, too, and it will either be from Ethiopia or a domestic AA adoption. Either way, I sure wish the Lord would hurry up and tell us!! I'm ready for more babies!!! :)

Mrs. U

Holly said...

I pray that God guides you with your decision! S. Korea is the only country that doesn't require a dossier. W/ s. Korea, you simply finish your homestudy and you are on the waiting list, just like with domestic. For all the work that a dossier appears to be, it's really not so bad. Go with your heart and you can't go wrong. :)